The boys know that certain behaviors will result in consequences. Those consequences are usually the loss of an activity that is important to them. This is not always the same because of interest changes and the key is to motivate a behavior change and "hit them where it hurts". This is easier to do with Connor than with Brady as Connor is very passionate about his interests. This is not as easy to do with Brady since he is so laid back that he will move on to a different interest.
Tonight, Connor lost his TV show as punishment for his lack of listening and then his lack of respect. After a meltdown about losing his TV, he then proceeded to make the following arguments (and a few more): "Mom, you should have taken my Shrek watch away because I wouldn't care about that. I can wait until tomorrow to get that back, but I can't wait until tomorrow to get my tv back. By taking my TV away, you have made me upset. I'm not going to be able to get up early enough to watch my show."
I had to point out to him that we apparently hit the "punishment" on the nail since that was the POINT! Why yes Connor, the behavior consequence should be the one that you least care about and doesn't upset you! Really...he was negotiating with me on why we chose the punishment we did! Keep trying buddy...your negotiation skills will come in handy one day when you need to influence others!
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